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@ 2008-04-27 – 00:01:21
Case study:
Alex is 17. She has a boyfriend, who is also 17.
She is a very persistent and determined girl, when she wants to.
She wants to go on holiday to Halkidiki, Grece,( google it , it's amazing!) with her boyfriend.
I said yes, after being tired of saying no, but I am soooooooo worried!
Do you think this is a great idea,hey , let her enjoy life , bla,bla,bla....
OR
Not safe at all, she's not 18 yet, she may get into trouble!
QueeneMab
Miza-T
I know, it is far. Do they speak English? (I mean apart from greek obviously?)
Because I know for a fact people think everybody speaks English, and that is so not true in Portugal!
I don't mind they sleeping together, they will do it, if they want, anywhere, I know I can't stop that
Oh dear, and I thought my troubles would stop when they grew up
xx
English is widely spoken in Greece which is good because I only know how to say thank you and the names of the food I like and how to order a greek coffee without/with sugar in Greek so otherwise I would be stumped.
Also Thessaloniki is the second city in Greece and is about an hour from Halkidikid depending which of the 3 peninuslas they are staying on. It has a major airport which is where they would most likely fly into and has lots of facilities.
But the safest thing would be for them to go with a good travel company such as Thomson so they could get support if anything went wrong.
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Miza-T
Yes, that is a good idea. Thanks Mrs F.
xx
Far be it from me to suggest how you raise your children.
I think you are doing a wonderful job by the way.
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Miza-T
Thanks meno But a bit of advice is needed sometimes
Specially from someone who have the experience
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faffajane
Pro think it is a dilemma that faces all of us parents at one time or another. I would worry with them being under 18, but you know your child better than any of us so only you will know how she would cope if anything went wrong really.
hugs xx
Miza-T
Yeah, that's the problem, she's a barbie, (literally, that was the only award she got from school!). I'm rellying on him to take care of her.
Decisions, decisions....
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MagicalMysteryTour
Pro I went to Kos when I was 17 and it wasnt too difficult to buy alcohol over there, but the police do sometimes wander around and it is supposed to be quite strict about underage drinking. Since she is only 17 I wouldn't chance it for the sake of waiting till next summer?
Miza-T
I tried to !! But she can be a pain in the ass when she wants. And I guess I am not strict enough...or not strict at all!
Thanks I will let her know about getting arrested if she drinks!
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MagicalMysteryTour
Pro LOL i dont think she will get arrested, I think they have other means to sort it out. I hope they have a good time anyways x
Miza-T
Well, I have to exaggerate a bit, don't you think? 
Thanks
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Juzzzy
I went to Halkidiki with my girlfriend when we were both 17. We were fine - but that was 20 years ago.
I think it all depends how sensible she is a rule, really.
Miza-T
I feel better then It looks like she's not the only 17 year old going to Halkidiki I never heard of the place before, but apparently is quite popular
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adamantixx
i think you should let her go, spread her wings and find her own adventures in life.
she'll have a great time but will always be your little girl x
Miza-T
Thanks, I think you are right.
but you speak like a dad of boys, am I right?
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adamantixx
yes, hun, you're right, of course!
we tend to worry less about boys, i think x
.. I have intervened when my daughter was also just seventeen with a boy I read right away is
big trouble, I didn't win and she hated me then, she left home, got burned, she came back, there were few more bad choices, she's still single ...now she's texting a Cuban she met on the trip there, what can I say?
I believe we still have to tell the kids what we think is right (for them!)because we don't want them to get hurt but from experience they will do what they want anyways.
Unfortunately, I did the same and I'm just fine now and so will they!
xxx
Miza-T
It's on our job description, isn't it? And it's difficult because we just want their best. But, yes we all do it, that's life
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Miza-T
Very funny
skip2468
As a loving Mother, you have done all that you can be expected to do.
You have shown concern, you have considered the matter carefully, and you have made your decision - end of story.
They will respect your decision.
Znethru
Pro Personally, I would say wait until they are both over 18. However, I am a bit Victorian in my attitudes! Ask yourself the question: "What's the worst that can happen?" - if you're still happy with the answer to that question, then go ahead.
Miza-T
xx
that is a scary answer! We can ask that about our kids at any age and come up with an unsettling answer if we want.
I have a similar problem with my 16 year old, although thankfully she does not want to leave the country, just go to an open air festival for 3 days.
However, you have now said yes, so you cannot say no. I understand why you gave in, teenagers can be very wearing.
Do you trust the boyfriend to be sensible enough with your barbie daughter?
How about suggesting they have a trial weekend away, camping or something, in the UK, to see how it goes. If they both end up in casualty then at least you have good grounds for reversing your decision
And I think you should sit them both down before they go to Greece, tell them your expectations, and then you just have to trust them to meet them. And tell them you trust them, and hopefully they will not want to disappoint.
Miza-T
Yes , they are very wearing. Saddly enough though, she finished with him
Maybe, I'm right to believe that everything happens for a reason in life. I really liked the boy, and he is devasted, but that's it , she ended the relationship.
She drives me crazy, this daughter of mine
xx
so Greece is off then? Silver lining
Miza-T
Yes...yep so true
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Eeeeeeek
Mmmmm well, Halkidiki is beautiful, we went there about 3 years ago.
The problem I have with this is that Greece is quite far away and they are both under 18 so if they have a problem neither of them is an adult. So it depends how mature they are really and how well they cope with stuff (lost valuables, missed flights, holiday tummy that kind of thing). Most holiday companies won't take bookings from couples under 18 possibly for insurance purposes I suppose.
The main thing is that if they go then I think I WOULD let them share a room because they are over 16 anyway and she will be safer with him than on a room on her own. Usually there ARE single beds but if they are going to do that sort of thing they will do it anyway.